Dixie Gillaspie

Anatomy of a Brick Wall

You know those “but I can’t because” thoughts that crop up when we say “what I really want to do is?”

We call those “brick walls.”

What bricks are walling you off from your success path? Likely they all fall into one of the four categories outlined in “Anatomy of a Brick Wall.” Even more likely, you can blast through them using the blasting caps and dynamite question that Dixie uses in her coaching process - and that’s all right here as well!

For the last 20 years, Dixie has been teaching people how to zero in on their barriers to success and blast them to smithereens! Now she’s sharing her insights, experiences and blast thrus in Anatomy of a Brick Wall – Common brick walls and failproof firepower to blast right thru them!

It’s complete with case studies and practical tips for turning your brick walls into rubble and accelerating toward your desired destination! Ready – Set – BOOM!

Lynne Wilhite

The Brick Wall of Circumstance

When you say “but I can’t because…” and the list goes something like this: I’m not qualified, I’m not certified, I’m too old, I’m too young, I’m not smart enough, I’m not blond enough… and so on.

We call those  ”bricks of circumstance.”

Sales professional, coach and mentor, Lynne Wilhite, and I had a rousing dialog about how she is blasting thru her bricks of circumstance and how she teaches sales people to do the same.

Lynne has been a sales professional for over 20 years, she knows a few things about how people build barriers and how blind we can all be to solutions, work arounds and blast thru possibilities. In this dialog you’ll learn how to:

• Create space to flesh out and develop your ideal outcomes.
• Ask “what if” questions to discover new possibilities and solutions.
• Shift limitations to opportunities
• Avoid getting caught up in “how” before you gather the power of “why.”
• Discover your REAL objections to moving forward and challenge them.
• Look outside of your own “box” for inspiration and solutions.

Bob Burg

The Brick Wall of Style

When you say “but I can’t because…” and the list goes something like this: I can’t sing like Etta James, I can’t dance like Fred Astaire, I can’t write like Scott Ginsberg, I can’t speak like Bob Burg…  and so on.

We call those  ”bricks of style.”

Anyone who knows Bob Burg knows that his style is unmistakable and irresistible. Best selling author of “Endless Referrals” and, with co-author John David Mann, “The Go-Giver,” celebrated speaker and friend and mentor to many, Bob Burg is impossible to imitate.

Bob and I have had many conversations, but this one took even my breath away. Always open and authentic, in this dialog Bob was also very frank about some of his personal “brick walls of style” and the gifts he has been given for blasting thru them. Among the gifts he shared here you ‘ll learn:

• The importance of balancing “you are enough” with “never stop learning and growing” and how developing your personal style comes from embracing your personal value.
• How to “adapt not adopt” by learning from role models but always being your authentic self.
• How to recognize when an adverse situation is offering you a gift that increases your unique value.
• How to handle detractors and those who would try to have you become something that you aren’t.
• How to recognize the return on the investments you make in yourself.

Ava Diamond

The Brick Wall of Consequences

When you say “but I can’t because…” and the list goes something like this: My spouse would kill me, I’d have to work too many hours, I’d have to quit my job, and so on…

We call those  ”bricks of consequences.”

In this Dynamite Dialog with speaker, coach, and passionista, Ava Diamond, we took a crack at why we’re conditioned to think about consequences or “worst case scenarios” instead of thinking in terms of creating positive outcomes.

Ava is the original “Feisty Woman” of Feisty Women Rock. She is the author of “Great Quotes from Feisty Women” – a collection of thought-provoking quotations along with Ava’s unique spins and challenges on what other feisty women have had to say. One of her favorite keynotes is “Is Your BUT Too Big” –  insight and advice for getting past your own objections and beyond your excuses - and that gave us a fantastic starting place for this dialog. You’ll learn how to:

• Control your outcomes by controlling your Choice Points.
• Manage your response by managing your thoughts.
• Recondition yourself to choose outcomes instead of preparing for consequences.
• Focus on Next Steps to reach your destination.
• Get comfortable with success and stop hiding behind your “buts” and brick walls.

Tom Ruwitch

The Brick Wall of Design

When you say “but I can’t because…” and the description is along the lines of “I had this really perfect dream, it’s what I REALLY want to do, and this part of it is just not ever going to happen!” Maybe you’ve dreamed of touring Italy and one of the hotels where you really wanted to stay is closed for construction during the time you are able to travel.

We call those  ”bricks of design.”

Tom Ruwitch, co-founder of MarketVolt, an online and email marketing company, and co-author of “Generation BIG” knows what it’s like to have pieces of dreams not come true.

His story is also proof that sometimes, when the dream you had so carefully designed falls apart, a BIGGER, better dream is about to take shape. Not only does his personal story with the development of the Generation BIG vision exemplify this principal, but he shares several examples from the book and from his experience where the dream that materialized was far more powerful than the dreamer could have ever, well, dreamed!

In this Dialog you’ll learn how you can:

• Use an inner “pilot light” for direction and feedback to stay true to your core purpose.
• Scale the design of your dream to make it immediately possible.
• Create a mindset that prepares you for opportunities.
• Apply universal success principals to making your BIG dream a reality.
• The first question you have to ask (and answer) about your BIG dream.

Bill Ellis

Blasting Cap #1 – “Do I REALLY want to do it?”

You might think that if you said “What I really want to do is…” that would mean you really wanted to do it. Not always true.

Surprisingly often, what we THINK we want isn’t what we want at all. Sometimes it’s what we think we should want. Sometimes it’s what we think we can do most easily. Sometimes it’s something we even wish we wanted to do, but really, we just don’t.

If you find yourself stuck on “STOP” or just in low gear… If you constantly second guess everything you decide to do… If you just don’t seem to have the energy to blast thru a day, let alone a brick wall… This blasting cap will get you back on path.

Bill Ellis, founder of Branding For Results, speaks frankly about his own quest for Clarity and Conviction – two of the “7 Cs of Branding” that he teaches to his clients and audiences. This dialog will teach you how to:

• Discover what satisfies you and how to get paid for doing it.
• Translate what you choose to do into outcomes that light your fire.
• Externalize your conviction, free your passion and go after what you REALLY want!

Kimberly Schneider

Blasting Cap #2 – “Do I have permission to do it?”

Probably you remember a time, when you were a little bit shorter than you are now, when you thought adults could do anything they wanted to do.

And then you became an adult.

This bit of firepower addresses both our craving for permission from others – partners, friends, family, and society – as well as the ways we have of withholding permission from ourselves.

A licensed counselor and previous trial attorney, a spiritual explorer and teacher of conscious manifestation, Kimberly Schneider, “The Manifestation Maven,” sees “permission” from a multitude of perspectives.

If you’re dragging your feet about even STARTING to do what you “really want to do” or if you’re afraid to pull out all the stops and really GO FOR IT! This blasting cap is the explosive you’re looking for.

From this dialog you’ll learn how to:

• Do a “permission audit” to become conscious of the people or groups who have “veto” power over your choices.
• Give yourself permission or secure permission from others to “go for it” in baby steps.
• Examine your constitutional belief system and free yourself from perceived limits.

John David Mann

Blasting Cap #3 – “Is it true that I can’t?”

The power of assumptions! There are many reasons that we “assume” that we can’t do what we “really want to do” – we’ve tried before and failed, no one has done it before, people laughed when we said we were going to do it…

Many people would have “assumed” that a bunch of high school students “could not” start their own school and not only have a curriculum approved but even graduate students who went on to colleges like Stanford and Yale.

John David Mann assumed those people could be proved wrong.

He also assumed he would be able to write bestsellers under his own name and as a ghost writer, be a professional musician, and earn millions in Multilevel Marketing. In this dialog we explore what made his assumptions so right and how YOU can apply the same techniques to accomplish your own goals.

In this dialog you’ll learn how:

• Playing “what is in your heart and not what is in your head” makes the impossible possible.
• Using the power of “falling in love” creates the ability to create anything you choose.
• Finding your “internal adult” that believes in you unconditionally will move barriers.
• Changing your story about your past and future allows you to invent the future you desire.

Stephanie Frank

Blasting Cap #4 – How can I redesign it?

Sometimes we discover what we really want, we secure permission from ourselves and everyone that counts, and then we have to say “it IS true that I can’t.”

What that means is you can’t do it exactly that way. It doesn’t mean it’s true that you can’t achieve the satisfaction, accomplish your purpose or create the live and business you really want.

Entrepreneur, author, coach and lifestyle design maven, Stephanie Frank has redesigned her life and business many times over, always staying focused on three core elements. She is a powerful example of how “can’t do it this way” does not equal “can’t do it at all.”

This dialog will teach you how to:

• Recognize and reject brainwashing and conditioning.
• Get the two major components of design in the right order.
• Discover the three parts of your Personal Success Blueprint
• Create your own checklist of “three core elements” to design your life and business around.

Dafna Michaelson-Jenet

Bonus: “Giving Yourself Permission to Pursue the Impossible Dream” with

Dafna Michaelson-Jenet

When Dafna first shared her “impossible dream” of traveling to all 50 states in 52 weeks and capturing stories of people who were solving problems and creating community a lot of people thought she was crazy.

She was even accused of stupidity, and having no concern for things that really mattered.

But she had a personal code to honor, and a mission that wouldn’t let her stop.

Not only did she accomplish that mission, she is continuing her mission through The Journey Institute. She is speaking, teaching and writing a book. Fewer people call her crazy, and thousands of people call her a brave hero.

In this dialog we discovered that the ULTIMATE permission we can give ourselves and others is permission to be true to ourselves.

Learn how you can:

• Handle those who don’t believe in you with grace.
• Give yourself permission to be “all in.”
• Focus on the “solution” you’re providing to create buy in for your mission.
• Deal with fear, doubt and second-guessing.

Trey Pennington

Bonus: “Turning Communication into Conversation” with Trey Pennington

Trey Pennington is on a crusade. He is out to teach people how they can satisfy what he terms the “three-fold human hunger:” To be heard, to be understood and to know that their lives count.

In doing that he is also teaching brands how to engage their audience on social media and how to be “set up to hear ‘I love you’” from their fans.

In our dialog, Trey and I theorize that we are all, to some extent, non-verbal and non-communicative and need all the help we can get to hear and be heard.

You’ll learn how you can:

• Facilitate someone else’s quest for significance and create a loyal following.
• Open your eyes to the way things CAN be instead of focusing only on the way things are or should be.
• Use social media not as a tool or technique, but as a way to challenge the way you see the world.

Scott Ginsberg

Bonus: “Annihilating Barriers to Creativity and Self-Expression” with Scott Ginsberg

You would think that someone who is barely into his 30′s and already has a dozen books under his belt must not encounter many barriers to creativity and self-expression.

He’ll tell you he doesn’t encounter many, and he doesn’t tolerate any! He blasts thru them as quickly as they show up.

In this dialog with author, writer, artist and speaker, Scott Ginsberg, he says he doesn’t believe self-expression is an important path to success – it is the ONLY path. And he does a masterful job of turning this bold statement into a “no-brainer.”

He defines art as “bringing your humanity to the moment” and demonstrates how turning everything you do into art does more than differentiate you – it demonstrates that you are unique, the “only one who…”

You’ll learn how you can:

• Use “intentional displacement” to break a cycle of non-creativity.
• Use self-expression to create a better understanding of self and turn that understanding into more powerful self-expression.
• Follow the THREE rules to barrier-free creation of art.
• Develop relationship with “muses” and “smoking pieces of brain candy” that reflect your brilliance back to you.

Mitch Matthews

Bonus: “A Practical Approach to Dreaming Big” with Mitch Matthews

Mitch Mathews, coach, author and creator of The Big Dream Gathering, is no stranger to Dreaming Big. He’s helped a LOT of people explore, share and actualize their Big Dreams and he’s dreamed and actualized a few of his own.

While almost everyone who’s dreamed a big dream has heard “be realistic,” Mitch take the opposite approach. He encourages people to dream bigger, to not restrict or edit their dreams. It isn’t unusual for participants in a Big Dream Gathering to post multiple big dreams and then come back to him to share how their dreams are becoming their realities.

In our Dynamite Dialog we explore the practicality of dreaming big and the keys to making YOUR dream a reality.

You’ll learn:

• What you need to do even BEFORE you start planning in order to keep your dream alive.
• How to take “baby steps” toward making your dream a reality and have it pay off big.
• How to recognize and incorporate “complimentary dreamers” to leverage resources and maximize impact.
• How to choose your success team, paid or unpaid, formal or casual.
• How NOT to be selfish about pursing your dream.

Richard Bach

Bonus: Richard Bach

There is no title for this dialog that does it more justice than his name. He has authored 20 books, including iconic stories like  ”Jonathan Livingston Seagull” and “Illusions: Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah,” as well as his most recent book,  ”Hypnotizing Maria.”

I was 14 years old when a line in “Illusions” completely transformed my perspective and my life. I’ve shared that story often with audiences as an example of the impact we can have even without our awareness, always adding this statement: “I will never have the opportunity to thank Richard Bach, but the impact his presence had in my life is the reason I am alive today.”

That this dialog ever took place is proof for me that “the impossible just takes longer.”

In fact, Richard shares his takeaway from reading “Anatomy of a Brick Wall” as “There is no such thing as a brick wall that we cannot, with our desire and with our choices, get through.”

That certainly wasn’t news to Richard, he has inspired thousands to see their barriers as illusions, and his latest book also uses the metaphor of illusionary walls. Throughout our dialog runs the theme; “Walls are but Illusions and we have the choice to stay behind them or move through them.” Knowing that, there is no need to “blast thru” them. Walking thru them works just as well.

Not only will you learn how to “walk thru walls” – you’ll also learn:

• How we go through the “attitude – choice – desire” loop thousands of times to become the person we desire to be.
• How choosing to act on your desires even when you think what you want to do is impossible makes actualizing your desires nearly inevitable.
• How the “Principle of Coincidence” works for you, whether you believe in it or not.
• How taking responsibility for your challenge also gives you authority over it and the capacity to overcome it.